Introduction
Now and then I get hit by themes from multiple unrelated sources. A speaker in a podcast observed that the best thing we might for the human condition was to become more self-aware through intentional effort. I had been writing on the crisis in DEI and concluded that at its core DEI is about our deliberate efforts to be more open to and inclusive of, others. But the motive was more evolutionary than moral. We were evolving more complex and pluralistic cultures but still operating on psychological reflexes established in our very ancient past.
I liked that the podcast speaker didn’t assert any particular beliefs, or methods – just evolving our self-awareness with intent – and an open mind.
The danger in the DEI space is that we imagine greater inclusivity is good in a moral sense and assume that those not so inclined are not so good. This is a recipe for conflict – and that’s not how you advance inclusion – by excluding those who disagree with you.
The DEI crisis emphasized how a sense of moral certainty is neither sufficient nor necessary. Goodwill is, though.
DEI has become a formalization of a philosophical approach which is embodied in Matthew 22:39 (the 2nd ‘great commandment’ – love your neighbor as yourself) It is a sense of duty rather than a moral imperative. That is to a say it is on us to behave inclusivity, not something we demand of other people.
There’s a slippery psychological process that kicks in when we believe we have a right to demand behaviors of others. If they do not conform to what we say, we can exclude them, regardless of whether we are prepared to hold ourselves to the same standard. This is the trouble with moral righteousness. It is rooted in certainty and not in self-awareness.
This goes to the very core of the Christian story now long overlaid by dogmas, distractions and diversions which give cover to avoid confronting the stark requirement of the two ‘greatest commandments’ – become self-aware (inwardly and outwardly). This isn’t an argument for Christianity. This is a universal principle. But it is the core of our culture (religious or secular), expressed in so many ways.
The simplicity of the theme
The thing about these two commandments is that they are setting a theme without prescription. How to I love my god? (or whatever the secular equivalent is) How do I love my neighbor? These are deep questions that should excite inquiry, reflection and experimentation. From such questions we will generate much commentary and advice – and this is true of whatever tradition/path we elect to follow.
However, we also see that an exemption is woven into many traditions. We craft exemptions to the ‘love thy neighbor’ commandment because this is the hardest thing to do. We are hardwired to exclude. We innately form in-groups and out-groups, and this gives us a permission to deny, reject or exclude that feels okay deep down. It is natural, but its not always the right or good thing to do.
That the point of this injunction to love thy neighbor is to evolve our sense of common being and fellowship can be safely edited out of religious teaching because it is too hard an ask of a follower – if you want many of them to conform to the larger mission of a religion (which isn’t always to follow the founder’s teachings).
Adherence to this injunction is reserved for the more saintly followers. The rest are excused the effort beyond being obliged to love those neighbors who are members of their in-group (sect, cult or denomination). There’s a reason the ‘good Samaritan’ story is told. It was okay to exclude some people. It still is.
In terms of how we might understand psychological maturity and health, asking some folks to be sufficiently self-aware of their own biases and self-righteousness might be asking too much. Our more primitive psychological reflexes aren’t ‘wrong’ or bad. They served our survival needs for 100s of thousands of years.
Wisdom/religious traditions have pearls of great beauty that are only background noise to the majority. What can apply to individuals will not apply to communities – beyond it being an aspiration, rather than a moral injunction.
Good neighbors
We can aspire to love our neighbors knowing that we are driven by psychological reflexes that value not doing so.
In general, we live in communities in which we are cool about our neighbors. This might be substantially because we don’t know them beyond a superficial degree.
David Rock from the Neuroleadership Institute was clear that religion, sexuality and politics were not good subjects for discussion in the workplace. We can be good work neighbors by not delving into themes that might trigger contentious passions.
This raises the proposition that details of a person’s life that might arouse strong feelings are really none of our business in the context of a workplace or even a neighborhood.
There are requirements for being a good neighbor that concern civility, a lack of criminality and other behaviors that might otherwise disturb the peace and order of a community. There’s a contentious dimension in that this might also include not drawing attention to one’s own attributes that might arouse adverse passions in others. This is where DEI got into bother. What is fair to demand of others or oneself in a complex, diverse and pluralistic community? I don’t propose an answer to that here.
There is a well-intended desire that we all have the right to bring our whole selves to work. But that is, I think a vague idealized sentiment. Maybe a trade off in our complex, diverse and pluralistic communities and workplaces is that we don’t – beyond a certain level of discrete authenticity. Even in a setting that is psychologically safe we need to self-police how much we might wisely disclose or express in our behavior.
We cannot demand others be more than they are. For a bunch of reasons that include historic, cultural, religious and personal life experience reasons we are at different degrees of self-awareness and self-control.
There isn’t a valid moral reason to demand unfettered self-expression. The need for discretion has always been there.
There is, I believe, a valid aspiration to see that our communities and workplaces are as open and inclusive as possible. It is not reasonable to demand freedom of expression for oneself while denying it to others. But some communities which are dominated by particular outlooks on life will assert their right to dominate. To misread this as a matter of justice and moral right is to assert a right that is not universally recognised.
Neighbors are who they are, and we live with that reality by not digging too deep. In communities dominated by particular outlooks, it may not be possible to ignore unwelcome interest. Wisdom and political sense should trump naïve assertions of rights.
Pending the widespread growth of self-awareness, we are stuck with what we have, not as a moral affront but as an artefact of history and cultural and personal evolution.
We do not improve things by pointing at others and demanding they change – and excluding them until they do.
The injunction to love thy neighbor as thy self means to see that others with whom we may disagree on matters important to us may look at us in the same way. Presumption of moral failing for not conforming to our beliefs and standards is not a fair, reasonable or kind thing.
Our common attributes
We humans have way more in common than what distinguishes us from each other. The details might be very different but the psychological processes that drive our behaviour are the same.
There are some who are not good neighbors. They bring strife and disruption to our communities. It is tempting to reject and isolate them, and it is our natural reflex to do so. But is it always just and wise?
With the many challenges facing us as individuals the idea that we might need to collectively become somewhat more self-aware seems reasonable.
On a distinctly spiritual level we aren’t talking anything different. The idea that our spirituality is essentially about what we believe is a very modern thing. But it’s essentially about attitudes and values. It’s like the way our nutrition is about the essentials of a decent diet and not about cuisines or table manners and table settings. Those things might be important on a personal or cultural level, but they don’t have a determinative impact on our diet.
Fears and stresses
There is a steady flow of reports on significant mental health challenges that impact people at all ages. Relationships are under stress – or hard to establish.
We are in a time when certainties are failing us, when those who look into the future see little to enthuse over.
I am not one of them. There are challenges and difficulties ahead. Our economic, social and political systems aren’t fit for purpose anymore. We do need a period of effective and positive change. But we are in a time when we are collectively more disposed to escapism and disengagement than putting an effort in to being part of the solution.
I like the call for greater self-awareness as a response to these times. It does mean we must put in the cognitive and emotional effort to adapt to the reality that is emerging.
A call for greater self-awareness isn’t dogmatic or proscriptive. It’s not even moral. It is more pragmatic. It argues that we make a greater effort to be more aware of what is going on around us so we can adapt to the changes that are washing over us.
I am cautious about assertions that ET will make their presence known so widely that the evidence will be unambiguous. But I have little doubt that should this happen the existential crisis that will be precipitated will be catastrophic to many. It would be a deeply rude shock to those glued to their smart phone screens.
It is interesting that now even books on management and organizational behaviour are talking of love being a desired attribute of leaders, along with emotional intelligence. It’s not that these sources are outliers, rather they are affirmations of other similar sentiments from less formal sources.
Being more loving necessarily means being more self-aware. The trends toward significant changes in our lives aren’t necessarily going to be diminished but greater self-awareness (by all the names we might call it) will make our adaptation less traumatic.
I think the changes are good and necessary. But, looking at the way the far right is responding, denial of them can become desperate. Misconstruing these changes as a moral force also impedes efforts to adapt more gracefully. From a political perspective both sides of the popular divide have lost realistic vision and voice.
A vital perspective
There is a necessary distinction to be made between individual spirituality and participation in a religious tradition. Religious traditions are communal constructs that embody cosmologies, cultural histories, philosophies, metaphysical systems, social mores and so on. They are not spiritual pathways – although such pathways will exist within a tradition. These traditions are a cultural ecosystem in which individuals exist – as members of groups and on a personal level. Such ecosystems are not equivalent to personal spiritual practices but can be containers of them.
There is a larger container, western civilization, which embraces religious and non-religious world views.
Self-awareness as an intentional personal practice may begin with religious activity but embraces the prospect of transcending it. I don’t here mean that self-awareness will necessarily lead to abandoning a religious tradition, only that it may do.
Efforts at self-awareness allow for the evolution of insight that may include changing one’s relationship with one’s faith tradition. That might include confronting a distinction between a philosophical issue and a cultural tradition.
Perhaps the best example of this is Dan McClellan’s work (check it out on YouTube). McClellan is a religious scholar who argues that Christianity is a negotiable belief system. It is not an inherently true system but contains truths of various degrees and shades. One can be a devout Christian but lacking much self-awareness or a deeply self-aware adherent to a very nuanced interpretation of the tradition.
We can imagine self-awareness as a predictable pathway, but that would be a problematic assumption. As an evolutionary process we might reasonably engage in a movement away from reflexive belief in a dogma, but that may involve a deep examination of the dogma – or a reactive rejection of it.
Self-awareness isn’t a state we arrive at so much as a process we undertake.
We can think of our efforts at achieving knowledge, understanding, insight etc as part of the natural impetus upon human consciousness to evolve through states of awareness to a more refined condition. Our traditions describe states of enlightenment or union with the divine. Materialists imagine a disembodied knowledge-infused state. Regardless of what we believe there is a common sense of progression toward a state of awareness beyond what we now have. It could be a restoration, a redemption or a novel progression. But whether our sense is cyclical or linear, getting there is still a goal we have – to the extent that we have a vision of such.
We can think about self-awareness as a non-dogmatic aspirational goal. It’s a kind of openness to insight about our own beliefs, attitudes and behaviors. The language of reflection is secular and scientific (human sciences). This is not to reject the metaphysical or esoteric but only to free up our awareness from habituated or dogmatic thought.
The power of doubt
I am entirely comfortable with the idea of spirit communication (which I have experienced) but I want a sense of rational (genuine) scepticism to guide how I might reflect upon that experience. Genuine scepticism is about doubting whether one’s interpretation of an experience is appropriate, not whether the experience happened. My fundamentalist Christian family members might assert that God spoke to them. My reaction is to ask “How do you know that who ‘spoke’ to you was God? I don’t have a fundamental issue with the idea that a deeper spiritual reality motivated a person to talk to themselves in order to allow that person to believe an important truth. But I also allow it was a religiously motivated delusion. I can form a personal belief about their claim, but I must also confess to myself that I do not know.
Maybe God did speak to them? Maybe that same God speaks to us all – but only through whatever filters we allow to be valid? Our capacity for doubt must include our reflexes to create interpretative narratives about our experiences. Is it okay for us to invalidate another’s experience just because it does not mesh with our beliefs about how reality works?
A capacity for doubt is the toehold necessary for self-awareness to evolve. But though it’s necessary, it’s not sufficient.
Doubting what others say is not even half the answer. Self-doubt in the healthy sense is essential. Doubting our interpretation of what we hear or see is important. This not only because these days our information environment is replete with deception and distortion coming from other actors, but because what we believe is a filter that can/will distort our awareness of what is knowable.
We have become captive to a great myth of our culture- what we fancy is rational thought is free of emotional distortion. Nothing could be further from reality.
Reason was once the attribute of the soul but, under the persuasive power of materialist thought it became the attribute of mind. And the dark twin of reason was emotion – a lower form of consciousness associated with the body’s lesser processes.
As our understanding of intelligence has evolved, we are coming to better understand that the great power of intelligence is not the raw processing power of the intellect but a capacity for imagination. So many of our great discoveries have come from imagining, not from reasoned thought – which is more like the housekeeper/librarian of our consciousness – tidying up after an imaginative party.
In a sense self-awareness is the capacity to dare to imagine what the soul says. It will speak to us any way we allow ourselves to hear. But we often offer up only the filters of belief and dogma as permissible instruments to receive its voice. We can earnestly beseech our inner spirit for wisdom and insight but permit only a distorted voice to reply.
Conclusion
We are in an age when secular rational sources are saying we must become more self-aware so that we can respond effectively to the emerging challenges. These messages are coming from business schools and other entities whose primary functions are to sustain what we have.
There has been a steady trend towards a convergence of scientific, philosophical and spiritual themes – on the subjects of self-awareness and the need to adapt to emerging disruptive conditions – climatic, technological, political, and social.
So, whether we are thinking in terms of keeping what we have or changing it for something better, we have work to do on ourselves.
Resources
Many of us struggle to find the time to access new ideas that stimulate self-reflection. One useful source is podcasts that can be listened to on a work commute, while exercising or doing chores. All you need is cell phone and earphones/earbuds. Below are some of my go-to podcasts. There is an abundance to explore beyond this brief list:
- The Thinking Mind Podcast
- Evolving Psychiatry
- Freakonomics Radio
- The Psychology Podcast
- To The Best of Our Knowledge
- No Stupid Questions
- You Are Not So Smart
- Ideas (CBC)
- Late Night Live (ABC Radio National)
- The Telepathy Tapes